Permanent damage

[maine516]

Fatima - I understand your frustration with how some of this thread has gone.  If you, or others, feel that any of my comments have been hurtful or negative, then I apologize for that perception.  That has not been my intent.  I joined in this discussion frankly because the topic itself that you raised "permanent damage" is I think significant.  I also think you started the thread for a reason - maybe just to state your feelings or maybe to see how others felt.  In any case, I know you didn't have to, but I really applaud your explanation above.  It is a very honest and thoughtful expression of why you have this fantasy.  As I said back at the beginning (and please people, don't go jumping off the deep end saying that I'm judging her or whatever), I honestly believed that to feel the way you do would most likely stem back to some form of resentment against others from an earlier part in your life.  And you've explained that it could very well come from that.  You also indicated that for you it is a lot less about sexual stimulation than it is about causing embarrassment to your fantasy opponent (the revenge factor if you will).  I think that's an important distinction and why it's not something you want to see in reality.  If those feelings were in reverse, then I think that might be another story.  So let me just end this by saying again that I appreciate your explanation.  In one single post, you very accurately addressed the heart of the matter in my view.  Kudos to you honey.   

At this point I'm going to exit from this discussion.  I don't normally let myself get dragged into these types of touchy exchanges.  Folks tend to jump all over every word someone says and start accusing them of malicious intent when they don't even know the person.  As we should all know by now, email type conversations such as these can be taken too literally and easily lead to misunderstanding of a person's intent.  A subject such as this can also easily generate pro and con responses, which seems to cause condemnation and defensive replies, taking the actual subject off course.  Too bad, as a topic such as "permanent damage" should invite differing opinions and meaningful discussion. 

[fatima.fatty]

Why thank you very much, Maine, I appreciate the sentiment