Hello everybody,
I've looked through a lot of the stories, and some of them are real fights. Some of them are described by the women themselves. I would like to know how some of the members here, get women to talk about a fight with another woman. I'm not comfortable to ask women have they ever been in a fight. I did ask my aunt the other day if she had been in a fight . She laughed and said "Can you imagine me fighting?" I felt very embarrassed. Before I could say anything else, she also said, "No, never" I was going to ask a couple of my other aunts. I want to ask some women at work.Any advice please?
Quote from: karenfighting81 on September 16, 2015, 03:35:14 AM
Asking aunts about catfights? That is just a bit strange IMO.
why strange?they are also women
Quote from: karenfighting81 on September 16, 2015, 03:35:14 AM
Asking aunts about catfights? That is just a bit strange IMO.
Not strange to me. I remember, as a young boy, I used to dream about 2 of my aunts cat-fighting one another. Actually, my first wet dream was about my aunts fighting it out.
It's a topic, that hard for a man too approach with a female, I would think, without sounding a little creepy. I know because I have done it before, an came away feeling like that was the way, the lady felt about me.
thank you so much LuckyODAY9 . You are not the only one . Thanks again .
my wife tells me about her fights if i ask. it turns me on!!!
One way is to go to a strip club on a slow night and pay a girl five bucks. Usually they are OK with it, especially if they are not making money any other way.
it depends on women too
Why don't you just ask? I see nothing strange in such question.
Okay, this may sound strange, but I'll talk about the grape. If it's more relatable, you can imagine potato or grain instead, as it's related to alcohol, its consumption, the legal high, the consequences and how any of this anything to do with your question.
Way before the public display and examination of malcontented human behavior more prominently known as sexual assault, women, independent of culture and timeframe they exist in, have a whisper network for almost everything. This is because of several interdependent reasons sexualizing other humans have been overlooked or ignored. In this scenario, the women are the grape. It can be fermented into a cheap wine, consumed in unnumbered quantity (the commercialization of sex) or it can be something more of a top shelf.
So, the question revolves around exclusivity made being available to the masses and if that's possible. Direct questions are rarely fruitful and not just because we're being seen as a creep. The main problem is, that women, and rightfully so, confront the idea of them being reduced to a sex object. It's even ickier with a relative. She knows the question involves imagining her fighting in skimpy clothes. The woman who could have been there at your birth or your christening, or both. I'm not claiming she actually did fight and just waived it away... but I do say it's awkward either way.
Having said that, in accounts less than fingers on my hands, I did get women to talk about their actual fights or grievances that either almost led to fights, or it'd been a fight between men. The core idea to ask someone you know well is not a bad one, but caveat emptor, it better be someone you're prepared to lose, come bad to worse. Both parties need to know each other really well, including, but not limited to the fact she might talk about something she'd never tell her girlfriend. Being ladylike might be a stereotype we encourage women to have but it does entail keeping certain things from getting out. Especially the judgment a fellow woman would dole out, that aggression wasn't the best answer. On our part, the guy (or the bisexual/lesbian gal) needs to reveal something of equal value too.
Given the sh*t many women go through, having a partner who is really by their side thick and thin is a rare commodity. Which closes off the wine/brandy comparison. Consumption is advised to be irregular. No, I'm not equating women to alcohol, I'm equating the dangers of overconsumption. This doesn't damage the liver but can take a toll on the soul and on the relationship with the person you're asking. Cultivation takes time, something I learned the hard way. By not respecting them I disrespected myself too. If I knew then what I know now, I'd advise my younger self to leave the control of the situation always with the woman. Once she can accept that a sexual fetish is not equal to her being a sex object, she'll be more relaxed to share.
Quote from: SantanaGarrett'sBoot on July 16, 2018, 11:58:21 PM
These talks happen often when girls are hangin with girls... girlfriends over the years have done this, rather comfortably with their friends. They'll quicky move into another conversation after a minute or two, where is enthusiasts would want to hear more and more
You've pretty much summed up my metaphor/comparison. Whereas most women, straight or not see the subject as a top-shelf liquor to be enjoyed in shots (in strict moderation) the frat boy in us want to turn that into a handstand and a beer keg. The trust of a woman earned and kept(!) is the key to this whole thing. At the end of the day, there are gals who have girlfriends out of necessity, to keep company around with whom they can discuss the delicate subject matters, but that also means following a mold, a stereotype. There are the select few who wish we'd understand, cherish and respect them without us turning them into sex objects.
It seems hard but speaking from my own personal experience, an overly aggressive girl has morbid jealousy as a side effect and they're generally not ones who pick fights with a cool head. It's worth making the effort.
One day, my female colleague was annoyed and stressed. Suddenly she said: "I would really like to beat me now". I was a bit perplexed, she is 40yo a single mother of two boys with short blond hair and a small 34b cup.
I asked quietly "With a man or a woman"?
"With any woman" came immediately from her. I felt my blood pressure rise and picked up the topic. What if you get to the wrong person? Do not worry if I'm in the mood no bitch can stop me was her words! Now I was really horny and became more courageous. Has that ever happened, I asked her? Yes, when I got out that my husband is cheating on me! I knew from her that it was 3 years ago when she discovered that in his phone. He texted with an old school friend and also met secretly with her.
What was there, I asked ignorantly?
I met her and you will understand that we just did not like each other. And there you got a fight with her I asked directly? It did not hurt that I go to the gym was her shifty answer. You were stronger than the other woman? she smiled and i wanted to know more... Where was that I asked? "In the parking lot where they met otherwise. I read in his cell phone from the next meeting of the two. I pretended to be unable to work and sent him to school for parenting!"
Clever, I meant, and she was there?
"Oh yes, and spiced up like an escort lady, okay He's on it"
How did I want to know? "short skirt, stockings further neckline that was unambiguously"
And you? "I come from work with pantsuit" (she really does wear it oftenand mostly with a pantyhose underneath)
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What happened? "She was very surprised and asked pissed where my man was". "I gave her slaps and said that did not interest you". "She tore at my hair, we fell to the ground and we rolled around". "I kicked her, she slaps me and truck driver separated us"
I could not anymore and devoted myself to work again.
Conclusion, woman talk about her fights but man must pick up a chance and must demand! Women do not necessarily brag about it.
Good luck brothers
Women prefer to keep things between women
Start with a friendly discussion, buy me a drink, then confidently ask. You have to bring down our creep-guard first.
Quote from: jessiefite on July 25, 2018, 12:21:06 AM
Start with a friendly discussion, buy me a drink, then confidently ask. You have to bring down our creep-guard first.
Sounds like a nice idea, were it not for the caveat that plenty of websites promote the idea that buying a drink for a woman automatically equals sex, so, maybe staying a gent long term should disengage said creep guard.
I personally have lacked the courage ask, but it has strangely enough come up many times completely naturally. I have of course tried to pay attention to how it comes up. It appears to me the number one thing that causes the subject to spin up is somebody says something like "I saw this crazy catfight the other day..." followed by the briefest of details. In a predominently female or evenly mixed group usually the women seem to talk about it more, fights they have had or fights they have seen, especially if they compare to the "crazy catfight". The guys usually are completely silent unless it is an all guy group. Then they talk about it more in general terms. "Oh yah... I have seen a few crazy ones at ________ bar" with almost no details at all. The only way it has seemed to work one on one (me and a lady) is when I am kind of naturally talking about recent stuff and I mention my wife arguing with her sister or business partner. For some reason some women seem to want to one up this conversation. "Oh yah, my sister and I used to fight all the time. We'd end up all scratched and bruised going to school the next day. One time she almost sent me to the hospital..." No idea what causes that. Maybe they are trying to impress me? Not sure.
I agree with GrasslandProduction, if a girl has worked in a strip club long enough she has seen a couple of fights, when I use to go regularly I use to hear about girls getting into it, from time to time.
Two friends of mine and I entered a public high school, all three of us came from a private middle school (where we lived there was no private highschool). One week in the public highschool, a weird Latino guy approached us at lunchtime and asked us if we had any catfights, and if we had one, he asked us if we could tell him about it, we all told him that Of course No, then the weird guy warned us to be careful about the tomboy girls, especially the Latinas and the blacks
Me too Lucky, loved my aunts. have asked two women directly and one from just listening. Got one no, one wrestled her brothers and three tore off a shirt. No details, oh well
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Quote from: boxcar2131 on July 15, 2018, 07:30:55 PM
I love this topic! I was wanting to ask something like this actually...
I was actually trying to play with this topic the other day at work, there is a couple girls and I heard rumor of them having a fight after work a few years ago (just before I was there). I felt there was a chance to get one of the girls who is respectfully kind to me, to say something about it in conversation but it slipped quickly away from me, and I had to let it go... because I would have been "reaching" too far.
Wifey has been in face to face battles... no physical fights though( would rather keep it that way...). She mentions a little when some sort of fight topic presents itself. But casually I try not to bring topics up too often... maybe some understand what I mean. Seems like she and her friends before have visioned a fight or two between the wife and another colleague... go figure I wasn't there, but would hear playful highlights from it randomly later... just enough to know they all playfully talked as a group.
Honestly that's hot as hell by itself in some weird way... you guys have any thoughts there?
Anyone else have success getting a girl to talk about her fights? Or any tricky ways to help it come up?
What did you hear rumor wise? Hear much detail about anything that may have occurred at the time? I'd guess whatever happened if it did wasn't a huge enough issue to carry over now since they still work together, although you could tell more from how they interact than I could obviously.
My gf has had a few short spontaneous fights in her school days when younger, and kinda finds it a little weird to bring that up in a fetishy way, though entertains things otherwise within my interest. We played around a bit once with a rivalry she had with a girl at college a few years ago to that end, although nothing ever happened between them.
Over the years wife did meet other women in private with other women. Thankfully she told me about those experiences. Some do, some don't share with their significant others for whatever reason, perhaps fearing judgement or lack of discretion from their partner.
Quote from: sinclairfan on September 16, 2015, 12:47:10 AM
Don't ask about real fights first. Tell her you saw a woman in the grocery store who would be a good fight matchup with her, and see what she says.
Agree with this hundred percent. talk about watching wrestling or hearing another woman talk about being in a fight then ask the question to the woman you are talking to. If you immediately ask out of nowhere it does seem odd to the woman.
My ex told me she had a fantasy of doing her best friend and me joining in, then asked me my fantasy. Her wrestling her best friend was my reply, best answer ever as both happened.
holly from catfight angels is back in the scene and is on twitter can someone make a post. I am new to this and do not know how to make an topic post.
As for talking about our real fights or even arranged rule matches, try to understand something , it starts with YOU. It is not that we won't or do not like to, t is what happens as we do or after, he constant barrage of Q & A can make a woman feel like we are on 60 minutes or a talk show.
we mostly do not relive our fights cause it is a side of us we reached out of anger or being pushed to far, women do not "like to fight" just to fight, i know it is a catch 22 kind of thing , we come here to write, chat, cyber but it is not real, so we aren't exposing that savage inner side we do our best to bury in every day real life.
as for openly grabbing a coffee and asking us, "so nice day can you tell me about your last catfight who won what did she do to you/", your asking us to relive a moment in time we lost control, we weren't ourselves or our best, another part to that when you guys ask us that stuff we see the boyish bright light in your eyes and over excitement, it is a level of maturity to it and getting openly excited about it to the point you all squirm and your faces turn to a smiling devious glow it really does nothing for us. Try to approach it as a normal question without looking like your about to whip it out and stroke away , Also once we start to tell you let us finish telling you what we want and think is relative or important to the story, then STOP asking it is not 100 questions time, just my side of it.
Thanks Dottie for the insight. That's great info.