I have wrestled with the idea of a rules cat-fight for my husbands pleasure for about 10 months now...
After learning how into this he was I have tried to fulfill his needs to the best of my ability...
I have watched DVDs with him, talked about it in bed to arouse him, came here to cyber and talk to other women, and even started looking for an opponent that I would be comfortable fighting for real...
It needs to be pointed out that my husband has an ex-wife...
An ex-wife I might add who also knows of her ex-husbands fetish and as you can imagine once watched alot of the same DVDs and laid in bed talking about the same sorta things...
I have ALWAYS felt the need to "out preform" her in this area as many of you here reading this probably understand...
The ex-wife "Lori" has no great affection for me...
After all, I came into the picture before their marriage was completely finished...
I know she sees me as the reason they got divorced because she has voiced that to me on several occasions...
I wont lie...
I secretly enjoy the idea of taking Rick from her even though im sure I wasn't actually what ended their marriage...
But over the years her and I have had a very rocky relationship due to mother/step mother issues and money...
Which brings me to my post...
In our latest heated exchange over money and a trip we had taken she tried to shock me by bringing up Rick's so called perversion regarding women fighting to which I responded by say "I know all about it, and it doesn't bother me at all"...
That seemed to shock Lori...
I guess because all over HER late night talks suddenly came flooding back and she was a little freaked out that I might know a few things she had said and done...
That call ended rather abruptly...
But days later after a call to Rick she informed him that He had finally found a woman SHE would have been wiling to fight when they were married...
Now im not stupid...
I know the thought has crossed his mind more than once...
Its even crossed my mind a few times...
But Im not sure Lori is my first choice for an adventure of this magnitude...
A. She HATES me
B. She's a bitch I know I cant trust
C. She's black (And yes, I don't know why, but the black thing kinda intimidates me)
She knows I know what she said, and the fact that I didn't respond seems to have emboldened her even more...
She texted me last night and said I did the right thing by not answering her challenge...
I texted I had NOTHING to prove to her...
I CANT GET THIS OUT OF MY MIND!!!
Everything tells me not to go down this road...
That she has everything to gain, and I have everything to lose...
What should I do?
From my perspective, if you've never been in a fight before, you don't want your first to be one where you stand a chance of permanent damage. Emotions may be way too intense for this kind of thing.
You should go ahead and fight her. Do you have any pics for us for comparison?
I would recommend NOT fighting her also. Too much animosity involved. You've already listed some good reasons yourself. Don't get me wrong though.......I think it is GREAT!!! your are willing to pursue this and as I'm sure I have said before......he is indeed a very lucky guy. As much as it pains me to say it.....ARGHHH! .....don't fight her. Find someone else. If you really want to you'll be able to. Find the right girl and it'll be fun for everyone. My two cents...for what they're worth.
I'm not a woman, but if you already feel intimidated by her you might not want to do this. I'm kind of torn on this one. We don't know enough about you and the ex (stats, etc.). You don't want your husband to think your weak, but if he really loves you he will understand and not push this. He might fantasize about you two and he might even want to see the fight, but I think if he really loves you he wouldn't push you into anything.
Bottom line. You have to go with your gut.
She's only about 2 inches taller than me but we weigh roughly the same...
She's just so "in your face" about everything, but sometimes I think its just an act to look tough.
Don't let her goad you into something you're not ready for. I agree with others.....get some experience first. Did I mention what a lucky guy your hubby is? SHEESH! :)
Quote from: QueenWendy on August 06, 2013, 03:15:37 PM
She's only about 2 inches taller than me but we weigh roughly the same...
She's just so "in your face" about everything, but sometimes I think its just an act to look tough.
That's all well and good, but sometimes when those types are pushed in a corner, they can be completely out of control. Just my $0.02.
Rick is being extremely diplomatic about the whole thing...
Whenever we talk about other women in bed he is always very careful not to bring Lori up...
I on the other hand have brought her up several times LOL
Oh and thank you for the kind words LuvFemFights :-)
If and when I do try an irl match I'm pretty sure Lori wont be my first choice, but if she doesn't learn her place soon we are going to have a problem.
get some serious fight training before you consider fighting her. you want every advantage in your corner that you can get if you do ever fight her
I think this tension will be persisting and there will be many occasions for re-surfacing of that hot topic. delicate situation here, no doubt bout that . first a "no" jumped to my mind, but aftere re-reading your Situation and the input of the other members here, I think you should truly go for the fight. But get some advice and some solid but sane training. Anyway, I Keep my fingers corossed for you and hopefully will read your decision about the further handling. Greets, C
Hey Wendy. I think you should really think about this before doing anything.
A few years ago my wife and another woman at her job didn't like each other. Over several weeks things between them got worse. Then 1 morning just at the start of a staff meeting, the other woman made a remark to my wife. Well, my wife jumped up and got right into her face. Her boss had to hold my wife in his arms. Luckily the other woman backed off and my wife walked out of the office. The next day both women sat down to talk and apologized.
As much as I have always fantasized my wife in a catfight, the thought of those 2 going at each other physically really scared me. They had so much dislike for each other that if they fought they both would have gotten hurt. Too much emotion.
Wendy, it's not worth fighting with her with you 2 being very emotional. Just talk about it with your husband and I'm sure you will make him very happy.
If I were you, I would wait as well.
I feel it might be a fight you would lose if you don't have any experience. And mix it with emotions like those others mentioned, it can end very bad.
As some have mentioned also, maybe have like a fun fight with the right woman. That way you could learn and not get beaten up very bad.
Hate to say this, but the reality of you and her in a catfight might not be as much fun as the fantasy? Speaking of which, the thought of you vs my ex-wife Nancy is positively yummy. :o
Put on some 12 oz gloves, and have at it. Clear the air and feel better.wear some headgear so neither get a broken nose and go at it. The tension is kiiling you.
You should do it. But I something goes wrong then, someone trusted should present there, if case of they can stop u both!
Please settle the issue like the jerry sphinger way or jous censura style....
Quote from: FoxyAnne on August 19, 2013, 10:17:31 AM
wendy, sounds like you have already won and are still winning everytime you are in bed with Rick, keep playing the fantasy role with him, tease him about Lori now and then, you know it drives him wild, tell him things that you would do to her in a fight and you have him as putty in your hands literally lol
if lori ever needs to know anything she just needs to know how you use her to spice up your marriage, that thought will be enough to drive a dagger through her, you know you should never fight her irl but you don't need to in order to win, mindgames are enough... just stop mentioning her for a few days and wait for rick to bring her up, then you know you have total control of how the fantasy is developing with Rick.
thanks for sharing x
Well said.
Do you have a picture of your hubby's ex?
-F
My feeling Wendy is that fighting Lori is probably not a good idea.If youve no experience of fighting and she is how you describe then being honest you likely to get badly hurt.Even if you won youd be in pain.If you decide you want to go ahead have at least 2 people who can stop it should it get out of hand,and i mean people who can physically get you apart not wave their arms about screaming at you to stop.
My wife,whos a nurse has had a few catfights had a pre arranged catfight with another nurse where we live.Myself and the other nurses girlfriend were here to stop it if we had to(in fact the 2 of us had discussed how we would stop it).I got to admit i was turned on by it,but was a bit nervous as my wife had a 3 stone(45lbs) weight disadvantage,but i wanted them to fight here so they didnt go somewhere else to settle it with no one to stop them and one or both of them(for i had no quarrel with other nurse......was a work thing) get hurt.Thankfully they really only stuck to hairpulling,lasted 6 or 7 minutes,the odd thump but no one got really hurt and the other nurse gave up, and my wife and her are reasonably friendly these days
If you do decide you really want to fight her then get some training,even if it only wrestling or boxing.As for being intimidated cos shes black thats what they rely on in many cases,like whites some are very tough and some definetely arent.People from Glasgow over here in the UK do the same thing,though even if theyre weak chances are theyve got something to slash at you with.Just put the whole black thing out of your head,else you beat before you start.
good luck and hope your husband loves you wahtever you decide...........or the result is xx
This is real life so try not to be stupid. Fighting is never the way to solve things. Why are you & hubby even communicating with this woman? Are there children involved? What about aliimony? You may have to put up with this woman for a long time. You want to end up injured or spending some quality time in jail? In some states the cops just arrest everyone in an altercation. You want a felony conviction on your record?
Use your head & don't fight. If you want to wrestle another woman for your hubby find a pro. Someone who knows what they are doing and can teach you and turn him on at the same time. Then maybe you can go on to some woman down the street but again with rules, safewords and all the rest. Wrestling or catfighting for fun is one thing; for real it wouldn't be a pretty situation.
I was in a similar situation and arranged to fight my hubby's ex. If was a terrible experience and I would not recommend it to you.
here is my 2 cents worth. If you decide you want to fight or wrestle someone irl, and the most important word is WANT, not need or get pushed into, start slow and easy. Find someone who you can match with and still be able to walk away at the end without having to hide bruises, marks etc. This ex wife will always be there if the times come you really WANT to fight her. The longer you make someone wait, the more upset they get, this does not make them a better fighter it makes them more prone to mistakes, they jump in wildly and make more mistakes, anger instead of technical ability takes over and they dont think. Advantage their opponent. Remember you are better than her in every way, do what you want, when you want, not when she wants.
Quote from: CFsupporter on October 17, 2013, 12:21:24 AM
Stay clear my dear! There is a big difference from an arranged catfight with rules between women in a safe environment who just want to meet for a bit of competition, but to fight someone with no rules because they simply want to settle a score, that is an entirely different matter. And you have never had a fight before! That is a setup for disaster. Your husband should be putting his foot down if he loves you.
Very nicely said
in my opinion, you should leave this alone. there's no reason to try and prove anything. the fact that you have the man, i believe, is proof enough. you are already the better woman.