In reading the thread entitled "My Journey" I had to chuckle at the post made by F4UCorsair, as he recalled his mother opening his mail and finding catfighting material -- only to hand it over to him with a rather nonchalant comment. I assume that most of us have tried to keep this thing of ours a secret for a variety of reasons, and have met with overall success. Despite taking CIA-like precautions, I have been outed three times in my long life.
The first was by my father, and I was probably 16 or 17. He was doing termite extermination and repair work in my closet and apparently discovered my well-hidden two scrapbooks and two magazines entitled "Girl Wrestling." Nothing was said, but I found the books in a different place than the cubby hole where they had been hidden. I can blame that one on the damn termites.
The second time was by my former business partner, who like F4UCorsair's mother, opened a package that I had sent to our place of business. He figured that it must be porn if I was having it sent there, so he felt comfortable opening and watching it. It didn't bother me much because he was far more obsessed with sex and porn than I, so I just rolled with. He told me that he thought the mudwrestling was boring.
The last time was by my wife -- and after decades of marriage. I was perusing Barb's site one afternoon, but got distracted by either the telephone or doorbell. Then I forgot that I had been online. When she went online the next morning, there was the "Combative Women's Website" on the computer. After she recovered from the initial shock, she rationalized that this was probably somewhat normal for red blooded male, and despite chiding me in a good natured manner, accepted it. There's more to the story, but I won't bore you with it again.
Any other stories?
It occurred to me the other day that I've kept my obsession a secret from the outside world for over forty years. And that includes my wife. Oh wait, I forgot. My wife knows everything :)
Bear, I would love to hear more. Great post .
Quote from: F4UCORSAIR on January 31, 2025, 02:33:04 PM
Bear, I would love to hear more. Great post .
Thanks. Since you asked, I'll elaborate a bit. When my wife "confronted" me, I was ready. I knew that this day would one day arrive, so I had prepared. I told her that this wasn't something that just hit me; it had been part of me since forever, and that I tried to open the conversation many, many times, but she had never taken the bait. We have known each other since we were teenagers, so yeah, this was part of me back then. I also reminded her of times when she was competitive vs. other women, and how it inspired me -- even before we started dating. Also, thanks to Barb, I had a good idea what was behind this fetish, and shared that as well. After that she was as comfortable as could be expected, considering that she was raised by parents with Victorian morals. To her credit, she looked at the big picture and knew me to be a reasonably normal person, good husband, good father, reliable breadwinner. So in the grand scheme, my thing for women wrestling was put into perspective. I consider myself fortunate.
Did she ever have a match?
Great subject!
I was "outed" three times.
First time I had left my Battling Girls magazine on my bed and my dad found it. He was cool about it and just told to be more careful about leaving things laying around so my mother wouldn't see it.
The next two times I outed myself.
I had always fantasized about seeing my best friends mom wrestle other women. One of my favorites was Candy Samples. So one day I got up the balls to go over their house when I knew she would be the only one home. I faked like I was looking for my friend and when she told me he wasn't home I asked if I could show her something that was in an envelope I was carrying. She said sure and asked me in. I was nervous as hell. I opened the envelope and it was a picture of Candy Samples having another woman pinned beneath her. I showed it to her and asked her how she thought she would do against her. She chuckled and "Oh my. I'm sure I'd end up just like that lady on the ground." Then she asked me if I really thought it was appropriate to show her this. I was embarrassed and started to apologize but she cut me off and said it was ok, just that I crossed the line a little bit and asked me not to do it again. Now she was great friends with my mom so I was really scared she would tell her but as far as I know she never did. I''ve attached the pic I showed her BTW.
Next time was right before I got engaged. Figured I was going to spend the rest of my life with her so I needed to tell her. I showed her some of the magazines I had and explained everything to her. When I told her the story about my friends mom she was hysterical thinking I even had the guts to do that. Anyway, she was good with it and tolerates it.
Quote from: npom on January 31, 2025, 08:25:14 PM
I had always fantasized about seeing my best friends mom wrestle other women. One of my favorites was Candy Samples. So one day I got up the balls to go over their house when I knew she would be the only one home. I faked like I was looking for my friend and when she told me he wasn't home I asked if I could show her something that was in an envelope I was carrying. She said sure and asked me in. I was nervous as hell. I opened the envelope and it was a picture of Candy Samples having another woman pinned beneath her. I showed it to her and asked her how she thought she would do against her.
WTF .... are you serious ???
Yep, crazy I know. You do shit as a horny teenager that you would never do as an adult. Thank goodness she was cool about it!
Quote from: locked on January 31, 2025, 09:33:31 PM
Quote from: npom on January 31, 2025, 08:25:14 PM
I had always fantasized about seeing my best friends mom wrestle other women. One of my favorites was Candy Samples. So one day I got up the balls to go over their house when I knew she would be the only one home. I faked like I was looking for my friend and when she told me he wasn't home I asked if I could show her something that was in an envelope I was carrying. She said sure and asked me in. I was nervous as hell. I opened the envelope and it was a picture of Candy Samples having another woman pinned beneath her. I showed it to her and asked her how she thought she would do against her.
WTF .... are you serious ???
Agree with member "locked". I can't imagine anyone doing that in real life.
I get the skepticism believe me. What you have to understand is that our families were always VERY close so I felt very comfortable around her. Looking back it was a stupid thing to do. Again thank goodness she never said anything to my mother or my friend.