I am assuming that there are very few authentic photos of members, but of those that have posted a pic on your profile, did you ever run into anyone in your real life circles that recognized you? Or thought they had?
I've been sort of wondering about this because while logic says that even if you posted a genuine pic, the odds that someone you know running into this forum and seeing it are quite low. Still, I don't post a real image of me because the idea that it would get back to family or friends is something I do not want to face.
I've posted on Twitter, Reddit, Fetlife pretty regularly with my face in my profile and haven't been recognized or called out on anything yet.
The fetish itself is pretty niche but I'm mentally prepared for someone I know finding and asking me about it.
While I don't advertise it to my friends and family it's not something I'm ashamed of if they were to find out.
Quote from: ChandieSavage on June 04, 2024, 02:26:27 AM
I've posted on Twitter, Reddit, Fetlife pretty regularly with my face in my profile and haven't been recognized or called out on anything yet.
The fetish itself is pretty niche but I'm mentally prepared for someone I know finding and asking me about it.
While I don't advertise it to my friends and family it's not something I'm ashamed of if they were to find out.
That's right, lady, I also do not hide my fetish in all my contacts and pages, and in any case, most of your friends and acquaintances know everything about you. And this interest is not a crime or some kind of evil :). Since childhood, everyone knew about my craving for women's wrestling and fights. And so far, many ladies with whom I studied since childhood or met later, and who agreed to compete for fun, when we see each other or meet at a party or in country houses, sometimes they themselves begin to bully each other, knowing that I like it. :) Because it's really a very good release of emotions, adrenaline and of course to show yourself a better woman. I'm not talking about the ladies from training at all :)
I once bumped into someone I recognized from online, but not from this site. Out of respect I gave no indication that I recognized her or knew who she was. O would hope that the majority of people would follow this rule.
I imagine statistically the chances of you meeting somebody directly that you had seen here are pretty small. There are about 21,000 members here out of 8 billion people in the world. If you assumed that everybody here had a real picture of themselves 21,000/8 Billion) are something like 0.000265% that somebody you would randomly meet was a member of this site. I know that is oversimplifying it and I might have the math messed up a bit. There is a time element what social circles you both might frequent, the assumption that every single person on this site has looked at the profile pic of every other person on this site, etc., but let's just agree that the Odd's are really low that somebody here shares the same interest you do, see's your picture here, then runs into you in your daily life, recognizes you definitively from your photo so confidently they are willing to risk outing their own fetish to have a conversation with you about it, etc.. What is probably a greater risk is unscrupulous people stealing your photo and various people using the photo in other areas, it being stolen again there, and so on until eventually you could run into somebody who saw your picture on fillintheblanksexualfetish.com and really really really wants to talk to you about it. In addition, with the visual search engines getting scary good, there is a chance that some crazy stalker could use the software to take your picture here, cross it with Facebook or Linkedin or some other site combined with some clues about where you are from to hunt you down. If they can't do it now, the technology is on the way. I would suggest the safer bet if you want to post your picture is masking or removing your face preferably with cropping or over over-writing data (draw a colored circle over your face and save)(blurring and special effects may work as well as long as the process is destructive) or simply cover your face with a piece of paper when you take the picture and don't include any background clues in your picture (take it inside against a windowless wall). Your face doesn't win you fights and your location only matters to people you want to meet in person. If anybody doesn't respect your privacy enough to respect you taking reasonable precautions, they are probably not somebody you wanted to have your picture in the first place. Just my 2 cents worth.
Certainly a concern of mine. I have used real pictures in the past ,because it was a real turn on, but am very cautious now.
This topic stirred my memory about a post I made roughly 8 years ago about this type of experience.
After work today I went to a local watering hole after a long week with a few gals from the office. One woman who looked about 50 with a nice pearl necklace in a long sleeve expensive looking blouse walked past our table, turned around looked at me as if she knew me then continued on to the bar. A few minutes later she walked past the table looked at me again as if she knew me then turned the other way and continued to the ladies room. My few friends asked me if I knew her. I told them I didn't think so. I felt a little embarrassed. I pride myself and being good with names and faces. My mind was racing trying to figure out if I had ever met her before and my mind was a blank. Curiosity got the best of me and I decided to go into the ladies room to find out why she looked at me the way she did. I went in and she was fixing her hair in the mirror. She saw me of course and smiled. I asked her if we ever met before. She said she thought she saw my pictures online. I told her I'm on facebook. She then said something like....no, that's not it. She looked down and said you look like a woman I saw on FCF. She used the initials. I replied FCF? She nodded and asked me if I knew a bunch of pictures of me were on a website about catfights. My face froze. I just instinctively said what? She then went on as if she was letting me in on something. Its a website about women who fight and there are guys who enjoy that kind of thing. There are profiles with pictures of all kinds of women who say they are into fighting. Again she said somebody posted photos of me on the site and perhaps they copied them from facebook. I then asked her what she was doing looking at a that site. In my head I felt my jaw drop when she said she has a profile on the site but with no pictures. I asked her if she was kidding and she said no. She said something like she wasn't kinky but she takes cardio box classes and would actually like to try boxing with an actual opponent. I felt a bit more at ease now although I was set to deny everything at first. I then said I do have a profile on the site and that I did have some actual matches with gals I met on the site. Her eyes got big and she smiled with an open mouth. She said she was so sure somebody just lifted my pictures from the net and made up a profile. Slightly embarrassed I reiterated that it was really me and I do like to box. She then suggested we get together sometime. We exchanged numbers on our cells. I told I had to get back to my friends but I would give her a call. It just blew me away that someone in my neighborhood would recognize me from this site. In this case it seems like a good thing because I'm certain she wants to set up a friendly match. Of course on the other hand its a little unnerving. I've been on the site for over 5 years and this never happened
Quote from: sue5159 on June 06, 2024, 04:32:15 PM
I reiterated that it was really me and I do like to box. She then suggested we get together sometime. We exchanged numbers on our cells. I told I had to get back to my friends but I would give her a call.
In this case it seems like a good thing because I'm certain she wants to set up a friendly match.
Did you two ever follow through with a meeting ?
Quote from: locked on June 07, 2024, 07:19:52 PM
Quote from: sue5159 on June 06, 2024, 04:32:15 PM
I reiterated that it was really me and I do like to box. She then suggested we get together sometime. We exchanged numbers on our cells. I told I had to get back to my friends but I would give her a call.
In this case it seems like a good thing because I'm certain she wants to set up a friendly match.
Did you two ever follow through with a meeting ?
She called me just a few days later. We live in same area. We met for a drink to discuss the possibility of a boxing match. I live in a condo rental so my place was out of the question. She was married with one teen living at home, so we couldn't figure out where. I have a friend close by with a place that was a possibility. She was going on a 2 week vacation. She never called me back. About a month later I called her and left a voice message, but didn't got a call back so just figured she was interested.
Quote from: sue5159 on June 08, 2024, 07:43:54 PM
Quote from: locked on June 07, 2024, 07:19:52 PM
Quote from: sue5159 on June 06, 2024, 04:32:15 PM
I reiterated that it was really me and I do like to box. She then suggested we get together sometime. We exchanged numbers on our cells. I told I had to get back to my friends but I would give her a call.
In this case it seems like a good thing because I'm certain she wants to set up a friendly match.
Did you two ever follow through with a meeting ?
She called me just a few days later. We live in same area. We met for a drink to discuss the possibility of a boxing match. I live in a condo rental so my place was out of the question. She was married with one teen living at home, so we couldn't figure out where. I have a friend close by with a place that was a possibility. She was going on a 2 week vacation. She never called me back. About a month later I called her and left a voice message, but didn't got a call back so just figured she was interested.
In my opinion, renting a motel room for a day is not a problem, you could do it on the same day. Or the simplest thing is to go to the boxing section (you want a boxing match) and say that we are on a trial training session and would like to work with her more in pairs. Half of the training in wrestling and boxing is free fighting :). Just like any forest or park. We sometimes did this at one of the schools, in the evening after lessons or on weekends :) In their gym or orchard
Dragonlily wrote on twitter about a work friend of her father that found her online after her father told him about her work, he then booked a session with her. Wonder if he had a wrestling fetish before booking the session or just tried it out for first time?
I remember Barb relating a story on her website years ago where she had been recognized by another woman who was a potential client of her company. So despite the odds, it can happen.
As a teacher, I would never post a photo of myself on this or any website. I have had over 6,000 students in my career and there are many more that I didn't have in class but know who I am. That doesn't include all the people I have met through sports, civic organizations, clubs, family, other friends, etc. that would probably add another several thousand to that number. So the odds are not that great against someone recognizing me. And all it would take is for one student, parent or colleague to "discover" my interest in this fetish to potentially make trouble in my professional life. As a teacher in this day and age you walk on eggshells everyday, so one just cannot be too careful.
So I'll pass. You will just have to guess what I really look like.
One more thing, I've often wondered if I would ever stumble upon a former student in a video. I have had some very combative young women over the years, several of whom went on to perform in night clubs. So the potential is there for that as well. Hasn't happened however.
Quote from: Bear on June 13, 2024, 12:08:26 AM
I remember Barb relating a story on her website years ago where she had been recognized by another woman who was a potential client of her company. So despite the odds, it can happen.
I remember that too and if I remember correctly , she lost that client because of it.
Quote from: Corvus on June 03, 2024, 09:55:30 PM
I am assuming that there are very few authentic photos of members, but of those that have posted a pic on your profile, did you ever run into anyone in your real life circles that recognized you? Or thought they had?
I've been sort of wondering about this because while logic says that even if you posted a genuine pic, the odds that someone you know running into this forum and seeing it are quite low. Still, I don't post a real image of me because the idea that it would get back to family or friends is something I do not want to face.
We had a woman living with us to get away from a situation. Seems her step mom found out. I figured out they knew. One late night on the deck she grabbed her daughter by the tit right in front of me. I had not reaction.. The daughter said "What the hell...you grabbed me by the tit!" Her daughters look on her face said it all. This was not the first time her mother did this. A year later the daughter started a physical fight with her mother.. and the Mom was not up to the task but told us about it over dinner. Family can be a bitch sometimes.
Also having done this for real...Meeting other couples is kept private. No one wants a stalker or someone fixated on the women. All women we met came as part of a couple. Safety reasons.
I have found pictures of the women on the internet. Found a movie also of some friends.. The movie was for sale. I let the couple know about it.. with info so they can contact the person or people involved if they chose. Its the petty people who cause problems. I think they act prudish but if I ask them how they feel about it 100% of them start asking questions and admit fantasizing about it. They may not partake but they give you that look.. Like when a man is out with a beautiful woman and the other women look at the men like how did he get her? Remember they found it...what were they looking at when they cam across it.
Also we wanted to go to the Hellfire Club in NY but a video we saw had a coworker cheering on the catfighters.... Didn't know him well but did find out he talked a lot about his weekend activities. Like a year old boy. We never went. Public gatherings can be risky. Keep it private....Keep it safe and have fun.
WTF ?
Recognition is the number one reason I have not been able to post more stories on the catfight board. I have heard fight stories from more than a dozen ladies and I have only been able to post 5 to date. The ladies remain concerned that someone in town will recognize the story and know who it is about. I offered to change the names but they remain concerned. Those that have allowed me to post their stories have used their real names but insisted on no pictures. I have presented the logical argument of how many in our city have profiles on FCF and if they did they would most likely enjoy the stories posted here. This did not change any minds and I guess I might feel the same way if I was part of the story. I will continue begging and pleading to see if I can post more.
Quote from: Bear on June 13, 2024, 12:11:53 AM
One more thing, I've often wondered if I would ever stumble upon a former student in a video. I have had some very combative young women over the years, several of whom went on to perform in night clubs. So the potential is there for that as well. Hasn't happened however.
Closest I ever got to that was I was a lifeguard. Talking to one of my friends/fellow lifeguard years later and he told me he had been to a strip club 500+ miles from our home and suddenly recognized one of the strippers as one of the little girls who frequented our pool. Very freaky. It can happen. When I say the odds are low, they are way higher than winning the lottery and I still buy a ticket from time to time. Probably safe is better than sorry.
About being recognized ...
There is a foot site online that a guy runs out of his house . He has a lot of 'models' I guess in their 20's and 30's ( a few older ) with pics of them and does custom clips with them all the time. I'm always blown away that these girls have their pics and clips posted where everyone has access to them. The clips are shot in and outside his house and he doesn't hide his identity either.
I remember in a forum this site was discussed briefly and a poster said he was from that town, sees these girls all over town in restaurants, stores, etc. and said he never approached any of them because he didn't want to let out that he was into it.
And this place has been around for a long time with a lot of girls being there for years and years. I'm blown away by the fact how indifferent these women are in letting what they were doing be known to anyone who comes across the site. I also wonder about the neighbors seeing all these women going in and out of this place to be filming clips, etc. and nobody questioned or 'blew a whistle' to anyone questioning what all the girls are doing hanging around this place all the time ?
Only reason I haven't attended one of the Fighting Dolls live events so far is I wouldn't want to be seen in the small audience .... as slim a chance it is I'd be recognized by someone. As paranoid as I am about that I can't believe this guys is so open about himself and his camp of girls doing foot videos in a small town.
Marie and I met this good lady on holiday in Venice, I recognised her instantly and we had quite the chat together :)
Quote from: Corvus on June 03, 2024, 09:55:30 PM
I am assuming that there are very few authentic photos of members, but of those that have posted a pic on your profile, did you ever run into anyone in your real life circles that recognized you? Or thought they had?
I've been sort of wondering about this because while logic says that even if you posted a genuine pic, the odds that someone you know running into this forum and seeing it are quite low. Still, I don't post a real image of me because the idea that it would get back to family or friends is something I do not want to face.
I haven't been recognized but I did recognize a woman I have chatted with at this site. While on vacation I recognized a woman who had shared a few pictures of herself with me when I spotted her walking in the historic district of the city where she lives. She had no idea who I was but as we passed I said her name and she looked at me quizzically, smiled, then walked on by. She had her children with her so I didn't follow up as that would have been creepy. A few weeks later I found her in the chatroom and mentioned the incident. She was very gracious (as she has always been when we chatted here) and thanked me for not saying anything in front of her children.
Quote from: maturecatfan on June 27, 2024, 02:53:28 PM
Marie and I met this good lady on holiday in Venice, I recognised her instantly and we had quite the chat together :)
Is that Foxy Anne? Amazing!
Because i am trans girl have had chats before with other t girls who know me from trans site
Quote from: Bear on June 29, 2024, 04:23:21 PM
Quote from: maturecatfan on June 27, 2024, 02:53:28 PM
Marie and I met this good lady on holiday in Venice, I recognised her instantly and we had quite the chat together :)
Is that Foxy Anne? Amazing!
indeed but not her real name :)
Twice while watching YouTube videos I recognized 2 former members of FCF, Foxy Anne and Lilontop. The videos didn't have anything to do with catfights, just older women.