I believe many men/women are closet cat fight aficionados but find it awkward or uneasy in sharing their fantasy. My question is have you ever shared or discussed cat fights with people you know? If so, how did you introduce the subject and what responses did you get? Also what's the best way to find out if the other person shares the same interest. I have only one buddy with whom I discuss this subject.
I've only shared it with my girlfriend, she wanted to know about my fetishes for a while and I was building it up as something super embarrassing and big (because I thought it was) but when I finally told her she just kinda was like "oh.. well that's not bad." She isn't a fighting type person and has never been in a fight in her life but she does indulge my fantasies a little. I honestly don't know how you'd go about bringing it up to anyone you're not close with like an S/O, I guess you could start by asking if they've ever been in a fight and if they enjoy them? If you mean other guys though idk lol, I assume pretty much every guy loves female fighting in some form lol
I only talked about it extensively with my current girlfriend. For her it seemed like a weird thing at first because she's totally out of the fight and stuff like that. However, she has understood this fetish of mine and now she favors it, not by fighting but by inventing stories of struggle with her as the protagonist.
With guys I know I only talked about fights if there are two sexy girls involved but I never said mine is a real passion
Quote from: Tanya K on June 23, 2022, 04:22:47 PM
but i still don't understand what men get out of it. Anyone cares to educate me?
Very briefly called "excitement". At least that's what I get from it. However, I must say that I am speaking only of inventive fights not of real fights
I've never found it easy to talk to anyone about why I enjoy watching women fight and wrestle. My wife knows, but she found out about it accidentally. She tolerates my "fantasies," but she's never participated.
In hindsight, I wish I had been up front with her from the beginning, though. I think it would have been easier than the way she found out, and I wouldn't have felt the need to "sneak" around about the subject.
Quote from: wasteland1952 on June 23, 2022, 11:40:11 PM
I've never found it easy to talk to anyone about why I enjoy watching women fight and wrestle. My wife knows, but she found out about it accidentally. She tolerates my "fantasies," but she's never participated.
In hindsight, I wish I had been up front with her from the beginning, though. I think it would have been easier than the way she found out, and I wouldn't have felt the need to "sneak" around about the subject.
Your situation is much like mine. Wife knows it and tolerates it. However, I think that at this point, she gets it. I did a fairly thorough job of explaining it when she finally found out. Thanks to websites like this and Barb's, I was able to come to some logical conclusions as to "why" and when I laid it all out, it made sense. As far as being up front in the first place, that just wasn't possible. We were so young. I knew it then, and she agreed that she wouldn't have been nearly as receptive as she was after decades of marriage. Lastly, I posed the question: "When we were younger, if I were wrestling against some other guy, with my shirt off, would it have turned you on?" She had to admit that it probably would have. That was the last it was ever mentioned.
In regard to starting a conversation with your love-interest, I'd say that there just isn't an easy way to open the subject. You have to gauge that for yourself. I tried to lay out bait on several occasions, but it was never taken. And, it's OK to have some secrets, provided that they're not dangerous. Eventually, they're going to be discovered. My advice is to be ready with a reasonable explanation when that happens. Heck, I still try to hide the fact that I purchase an occasional video. Old habits die hard!
Quote from: Tanya K on June 23, 2022, 04:22:47 PM
but i still don't understand what men get out of it. Anyone cares to educate me?
I can tell you. It's because a catfight represents raw femininity. Men are naturally attracted to femininity. A catfight is femininity's dark side but it's still feminine. It's exciting for men because it's a realm we cannot enter lest we taint the natural presence of the catfight. a few men dream about being caught in the middle of a catfight because it means they are surrounded by raw femininity, but the excitement is that it is a world we may understand but are forbidden to partake in, only observe. It's an exclusive experience for women only. Some men fight the motivation behind the fight a big part of its eroticism, but the truth is sometimes not knowing why two men throw down is just as sexy.
Quote from: Tanya K on June 23, 2022, 04:22:47 PM
but i still don't understand what men get out of it. Anyone cares to educate me?
A combination of things. Partially because it's so rare? You can watch virtually any movie or show and see males fighting. Growing up it was also fairly common. But watching females fight? Now that was rare which made it more interesting.
We often view females as softer and gentler. That makes something as harsh as physical combat more titillating and therefore fascinating.
Then there is the sexual side of it. Since males are so visually driven sexually there is also the actual imagery of women tangled together with hair flying around. The movement of their bodies can be arousing by itself (strip clubs?). The anticipation of female sexual organs being exposed or attacked can bring out something primal in males.
It is probably also related to the whole "girl on girl" fantasy. If seeing one beautiful woman is good then two together is even better right? Whether they are treating each other lovingly or violently can even be irrelevant to us as the spectators although it's a different world to the participants!
Quote from: shesfinished on June 22, 2022, 11:17:54 PM
I believe many men/women are closet cat fight aficionados but find it awkward or uneasy in sharing their fantasy. My question is have you ever shared or discussed cat fights with people you know? If so, how did you introduce the subject and what responses did you get? Also what's the best way to find out if the other person shares the same interest. I have only one buddy with whom I discuss this subject.
I think in general any guy must be getting a bit excited to see ladies compete but i think very few acknowledge this as fetish. Have tried to talk about it but a couple of times with one or two friends but couldnt build up on discussion.
Quote from: Tanya K on June 23, 2022, 04:22:47 PM
but i still don't understand what men get out of it. Anyone cares to educate me?
Very simply it is a turn on. Now why it is a turn on probably varies for each guy as does the type of catfight that each prefers. I can only speak for myself but I've always preferred one-sided matches. I'm think it traces back to the first time I saw women wrestling on TV back in the early 70's. A brunette was bouncing this blonde all around the ring. For whatever reason this turned me on. No idea why but I've been hooked ever since.
Very simply it is a turn on. Now why it is a turn on probably varies for each guy as does the type of catfight that each prefers. I can only speak for myself but I've always preferred one-sided matches. I'm think it traces back to the first time I saw women wrestling on TV back in the early 70's. A brunette was bouncing this blonde all around the ring. For whatever reason this turned me on. No idea why but I've been hooked ever since.
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I think it starts at a young age for a lot of us when we're exposed it to one way or another. I think what hooked me was playing an old boxing game on Nintendo 64 called Ready 2 Rumble, and playing as or against the only two female characters. I can always remember feeling a type of way
For me, it's a fantasy fetish that gets me sexually excited.The whole idea is that women rip each others clothes off, pull hair, slap each other, etc,...Let me point out that I am NOT a fan of real catfights. I do not find UFC/MMA women fight amusing or arousing. There is enough violence in the world that I do not want to see women really hurt each other. I know others on this forum disagree, but that's just the way I feel. I get just as aroused for other fetishes like pie fights, WAM (wet and messy, etc,...), wet T-shirt contests, jello wrestling, etc,.... ;D
I think there is a pretty broad range of interests for guys in this. Some guys like to see the battle, some are attracted to the winner (darwinism), some attracted to the looser (damsel in distress), some just hope to see some skin. Plus all the variation in fighting styles. Something that drives one of us crazy does nothing for the next guy.
As far as how to bring it up with others or a group, the best I have heard is to bring up a fight you saw recently kind of casually and see where it goes. For example, out at a bar one night where one of our friends was a bouncer, he mentioned a huge catfight that had just happened the previous night. Didn't even really give the details. Said he was bored and hoped another one happened. Just like that it was a topic of conversation with our mixed group (guys and their wives/gf's) for the next hour. I swear the women were more excited about it than the guys, but I suspect they were trying to curb their enthusiasm in front of their women. I imagine it could be pretty easily modified. Just say something like you heard there was a big catfight at that bar last month. Hope there is one tonight!!! with a silly evil grin. See where it goes.
Quote from: shesfinished on June 22, 2022, 11:17:54 PM
I believe many men/women are closet cat fight aficionados but find it awkward or uneasy in sharing their fantasy. My question is have you ever shared or discussed cat fights with people you know? If so, how did you introduce the subject and what responses did you get? Also what's the best way to find out if the other person shares the same interest. I have only one buddy with whom I discuss this subject.
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Well I think this might fit the topic here. It's becoming well known that an upside down pineapple ???? is a silent indicator of a couple interested in swinging. So maybe we could come up with something similar for couples and women interested in Women's Wrestling. Something that would discreetly cut down on the risk of rejection and you could decide on the spot if you were interested in approaching them. ;)
You are right. I find it uneasy sharing about my wrestling fantasies/hobbies with the friends I meet on a day-to-day basis. Personally, I keep it private for the most part. Some of my closest friends know, but only because it is just impossible to be that private. They don't share the interest though and see it purely as a competitive thing, such as say, akin to someone having a hobby of playing chess.
The few acquaintances I have that share my interest were either met online or in the gym. The first time I approached someone, I tried to gauge their interest in the topic of wrestling by subtly inserting wrestling into a conversation, for example I'd be working out at the gym, and I point at someone else and ask my buddy "Hey who do you think would win a wrestling match? Me or her?"
I've found all the responses to the original post interesting.
I see several replies mention seeing or hearing of a catfight, and bringing it up as part of a normal conversation. I've been in those situations myself, where someone mentions seeing a girl fight, and then several people in the group bring up their own experiences. In those instances, I didn't have a problem chiming in with my 2 cents worth. But even though hearing others describe catfights they witnessed was really turning me on, I never let on. Talking about catfights you've seen is one thing, but to admit getting aroused seeing two girls fight is something else.
Well said Wasteland. Up to the age of. 23 I thought I was the only person on earth aroused by a fight between females. Only when I found magazines in a lttle shop in London with magazines, Fighting Girls Monthly for instance, did I realise that maybe others were affected, or should that be afflicted, like myself.
Eventually I progressed to live events (ordinary girls wrestling topless). Even at these events it's difficult to find someone to connect with. By being there you obviously have an interest in females battling each other but the catfight genre covers many aspects of particular interest.
One chap there said his wife had found some of his mags and threatened to divorce him if he didn't get rid of them. Another was supposedly at a football match and on his way home had to learn the result and hopefully hear a report to add substance to his deception.
In general I think catfight fans live a solotary existence. I'm grateful to people on here who share their thoughts and experiences through P.M. As I've grown older I find it easier to contrive to bring a conversation round to girl fights and actually the most willing to share their experiences are girl/women.
As others have said you can't show enthusiasm though.
I occasionally tried to arrange a wrestling match in household privacy. The women you can approach for that are few and far between. I've never been successful but it was interesting trying.
Quote from: CatfightsAreFun on June 23, 2022, 02:44:13 PM
I've only shared it with my girlfriend, she wanted to know about my fetishes for a while and I was building it up as something super embarrassing and big (because I thought it was) but when I finally told her she just kinda was like "oh.. well that's not bad." She isn't a fighting type person and has never been in a fight in her life but she does indulge my fantasies a little. I honestly don't know how you'd go about bringing it up to anyone you're not close with like an S/O, I guess you could start by asking if they've ever been in a fight and if they enjoy them? If you mean other guys though idk lol, I assume pretty much every guy loves female fighting in some form lol
I had an almost identical interaction when I raised it with my now wife.
I don't. Too embarrassed to admit. When I dated 2 girls back in the day, I rented From Russia With Love video and viewed it with them separately. They seemed intrigued with the Gypsy catfight. I asked the girls if they got into a catfight with other(kinda disliked each other) if they would win. One said "hell ya" the other said "shit yes." Never happened, and that's the only time I leaked my fantasy.
Quote from: shesfinished on June 29, 2022, 08:16:13 PM
I don't. Too embarrassed to admit. When I dated 2 girls back in the day, I rented From Russia With Love video and viewed it with them separately. They seemed intrigued with the Gypsy catfight. I asked the girls if they got into a catfight with other(kinda disliked each other) if they would win. One said "hell ya" the other said "shit yes." Never happened, and that's the only time I leaked my fantasy.
Did you ever fantasize them catfighting like that? How did it go? Who won in your mind?
Can't count how many times I fantasized these two babes cat fighting in front of me. Since both had keys to my apt.(mistake?) I get caught in bed by the other and an argument escalates in an all out hairpulling/slapping brawl. They grab each other's breasts and try for the pussy determined to fuck-up each other bad. Different winner each time as I recollect. If it really happened, probably would have stopped it if went too far. Know that I think of it they may have known about my fantasy.
I can understand it being uncomfortable bring the topic up with a Significant other. If it isn't accepted, it could drive a wedge in the relationship. Talking about just in general, I think most people, men and women enjoy cat fights. I worked at the headquarters of a very large company. There was about 15,000 employees and most were office staff women. I have more knowledge of women's reactions to cat fights. When word got around there had been a cat fight. Most of the ladies got all excited and wanted all the details. It seems most all of the ladies were interested in hearing about it. I would think most men would have a similar reaction.
It's funny female combat such as boxing and bare knuckle can be discussed more openly, not catfights. Porn association??
Shesfinished, the possible porn association might account for it. If you are at work or in a group setting, and someone asks if anyone saw the women's mma fight on tv last night, then the discussion would probably center on fight tactics, scoring, etc. The same for boxing. But discussing a catfight that was seen in person, or on a tv show or movie, just takes on a different dimension, at least to me.
I remember a long, LONG time ago, there was a tv show called Don Adam's Screen Test. Some of the old timers on here may remember it. Don Adams, who played Maxwell Smart in the old tv spy spoof, Get Smart, had audience contestants act out scenes from old movies or tv shows. It was kind of funny seeing two people who had no acting experience act out some goofy scene. I was in the military at the time, and I was at my duty station one night when the show happened to be on. And unbeknownst to me, the scene that night was the catfight from the movie Destry Rides Again.
The next day I was talking to my wife, and she told me about the show, and she was laughing about how funny it was, seeing the two women contestants act out the fight. I almost fainted. I was trying to laugh at what my wife was describing, but all the time I was dying because I didn't see the show! I didn't have the courage to tell her how I wished I would have seen it because it would have been a huge turn on for me.
By the way, here's a vid link to that episode. It's really not that fantastic, but at the time, hearing my wife talk about it, made it seem like the best scene ever.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wW27SQY8pQ
Thanks for the link. Actually, I found their short, little scrap quite sexy.
Quote from: Tanya K on June 23, 2022, 04:22:47 PM
but i still don't understand what men get out of it. Anyone cares to educate me?
I can't explain exactly why girl fights excite me but they sure do!
Quote from: shesfinished on June 22, 2022, 11:17:54 PM
I believe many men/women are closet cat fight aficionados but find it awkward or uneasy in sharing their fantasy. My question is have you ever shared or discussed cat fights with people you know? If so, how did you introduce the subject and what responses did you get? Also what's the best way to find out if the other person shares the same interest. I have only one buddy with whom I discuss this subject.
Ever notice the reaction of many women if a film has a girl fight in it? Not a martial arts fight or superwomen in a Marvel/DC film, but two ordinary women slugging it out. They like it. I once watched Drop Zone on tv, which has a quite violent girl fight, in the company of a woman, and she couldn't stop enthusing about it for the rest of the evening.
How would you respond if your wife/GF/associates discovered your cat fight fetish? "Please let me explain??"